Chapter 12 “The Exciting and Fun Step”
“Fine by me,” said John, handing her a pen and a pad of paper. Let’s see here, list your goals, 1 per piece of paper stated as ‘pie in the sky’ goals. You go first, honey.”
“The most obvious is to get a timber framed home,” Lisa quipped, “but we should go about it systematically”
“Do we want it by a certain date?” John asked.
“Let’s add that after we set all of our goals,” Lisa replied. She flipped to a new page. “Your turn.”
“Far more important than that is the quality of our relationship.”
“So how should I write the goals?”
John thought for a bit. “Just write that we will use the formula to continually improve our marriage.”
Lisa smiled as she wrote that down. “What do you think if I write ‘Always have clear planning and discipline’ for goal 2?”
“That’s probably one we should solve first. We should also solve the wetlands thing and the bank loan.”
Lisa held up her hand, “Hang on…OK how should I write that?”
“Uh…” stammered John “What’s wrong with ‘Solve wetlands glitch? And the next could be about freeing up some cash from the property.”
“Uh-huh. Definitely,” said Lisa, writing furiously to keep up. “What about financial goals like retirement and such?”
John looked up. “That should be covered when we do goal #2, ‘Clear planning and discipline.’”
“I’m almost thinking it could be lumped in with a goal about income versus expense ratio,” contradicted Lisa, looking thoughtful.
“OK,” said John, “just write something like, ‘Maintain a positive income to expense ratio including a structured savings plan.’”
After Lisa was done writing, John held out his hand for the notebook, “Can I take a look at those?” he asked.
1st GOAL – Continually improve our marriage
2nd GOAL – Always have clear planning, discipline and goals
3rd GOAL – Systematically acquire a timber frame home
4th GOAL – Free up cash from the property
5th GOAL – Get approved for house loan
6th GOAL – Maintain a positive income to expense ratio including a structured savings plan
7th GOAL – Solve the wetlands glitch
“Are there any other goals you can think of?” John asked, after flipping through the pages. “Let’s avoid prioritizing them until after we’ve gone through the formula. Step 4 is next, so we need to come up with objections why our goals are unrealistic or won’t work. Which goal should we do first?”
“Let’s do the one about our marriage,” Lisa replied…
To be continued…
So, that is step #3, the fun easy step… state your uninhibited, pie in the sky goals!
To prepare for chapter 13, post some reasons why john and lisa’s 1st goal is a pipe dream- unrealistic…
To your perseverance,
Mister P
October 8, 2009 | Posted by Mister P
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Goal setting is interesting.
Brian Tracy in his book “Goals!” says, “Success ig goals, and all else is commentary.”
John Ho
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goal #1 isn’t very specific. it would be better if it were something like Make sure we always show respect to each other and never go to sleep angry…
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I think the doctor needs to prescribe them some specificity pills!
Either that or get Rob (above) to branch out into “Simple Survival Tips For MARRIAGE Disasters and Emergencies”!!
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Missed out the “how”. Not sensory specific, choice expanding. Also, should figure out who specifically wants that goal. May seem like couple does, but could be just one of them and the other is undermining the whole relationship.
Keri Eagan
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Thanks for the information, thats a perspective I never thought of. Keep up the good work.
Scott
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Indeed what a fun step! Setting those pie-in the sky goals are imperative because they reveal more specifically what we each desire and reveal more of our core essence. OR we are all doing the same thing which would be tremendously boring in life, house building and marriage.
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April Braswell
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Good insight into goal setting, which is an oft put off part of planning.
Steve Chambers, Sale Trainer Speaker
This is an excellent frame work for goal setting
Jose Escalante
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I hope they can fix their marital problems before trying to build/buy a house.
Lisa McLellan
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Yes by all means! horosho!